Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Maintaining Balance and a Good Book

Hi friends!  It's almost Thanksgiving and I'm getting excited for turkey and to have a nice long weekend with my husband!

I picked up a good book last night by Stephanie Nielson, Heaven is Here.  It's the story of her life and how she survived a plane crash. My sister recommended this book to me and as a survivor of a major car accident, this book really appealed to me. I'm only at the beginning of her book, but it's really gotten me thinking about my own life, my little blog here, and what's really important to me.

Heaven is Here

This blog has evolved over the past 3+ years into something bigger than I ever imagined.  I've connected with more people than I ever thought I would.  It's been fun, but lately I find myself getting sucked into it all too often, eating away at the precious time I have with my son and husband.  I'm constantly trying to find the right balance between blogging and being a good mom and wife.

I'll be the first to admit that I am not a very busy person, at least in the sense of having a job or lots of activities and appointments to go to.  My health problems keep me more house bound than I would like, so I find little ways to keep myself busy, like blogging or making pretty things.  And those things can be fulfilling, but I want to make sure I'm spending my time on the most important things I can at this stage in my life.  My son is five now.  That time with him has flown by.  And now I'm at the point where I desperately want more children, but I don't know when or how that will happen.  I have to cherish this time I have with just the one. He is a special, special boy.  He has the coolest imagination and is always surprising me with funny things- like drawing pictures of "zombie bathtubs" or using old cans and dishes to make superhero "super suits"! I don't want to miss any of that!

Lately I find myself checking my email waaaaaay too much.  It can get to the point where I'm almost addicted.  I like feeling connected to others and getting feedback, but ya, I realize I should not  be checking things online constantly.  I need to live my life!  Does anyone else get sucked into that, or is it just me?

I woke up at 5:30 this morning with the usual cramps that hit me early every morning and started thinking.  I always do my best thinking in the early hours of the morning.  I know that something has to give here.  I need to be balanced to be happy, to be truly fulfilled in life.  What can I give-up here to make that happen?  The first thing I thought of was the weekly link parties I've been participating in faithfully for years.  Those eat up the most time of all.  They've got to go.  Ya, I might give up some chances to reach new people, but I have to draw the line somewhere. The second thing in mind is that I could schedule a certain amount of  "blog" time every day and stick to that.  Set up a set amount of time to respond to emails and maintain my Etsy shop too.

Those are my solutions for now and I'm going to stick to them.  What are your thoughts?  How do you keep balance in your life?


  1. I'm not blogging right now but I still manage to dump way too much time into the internet. I like your ideas. I also wanted to tell you that I am crocheting your hat pattern and really enjoying it. I can't wait to see the finished product! I'm not a counter, so I tend to wing it, and I think the hat is getting bigger than it is supposed to be. I'm hoping it will fit my friend withe super luxurious thick hair! :)

  2. I am not a blogger, just addicted to reading blogs, learning and doing or trying to do ;0)
    Your post today hit home with me because of my "addiction" to the internet and email.
    My kids are grown, one passed away 5 years ago.
    You are absolutely correct in wanting to spend more time enjoying your son, your husband and "real" life in general. There is a time and place for the blog as it is a part of you and it's important. To change up a quote I read years ago, think of it this way---no one who was on their death bed ever said to themself "I wish I would have spent more time blogging"...'nuff said.

  3. I really admire how you honestly look at yourself...I need to be better at that.

  4. aww, i didn't know you had a lot of health problems. i have a lot of 'female' health problems going on so i can relate on a certain level and with the whole blogging thing. it does become addicting, but you have to cut back a portion of it. i think maybe the weekly link ups would be a good idea and then just focus on your posts and shop. that may take some of the load off. try that and see (:

  5. I know what you mean about being addicted to the internet; I sure am. I think about it every day, but don't really do much about it. You might be interested in this blog post addressing this issue, by a jewellery maker in Australia who also blogs about how to run a business.

    I must admit I hate to unsubscribe blogs, but sometimes I force myself to cut back on the number I read. I'd be so happy if bloggers would cut back on the number of posts they do, concentrate on quality over quantity, so I could still follow them, but not spend so much time doing it. I'm still slogging through Nov 28 posts. I have thousands and thousands of others waiting for me that will, no doubt, never be read. Dishes are waiting. Why am I here? Good luck.